Have you missed me? It’s been three weeks since I last shared an update and there a few very good reasons for that.
Practicalities, changes to my behaviour day to day, and penny drop moments are at the core of my lack of posts and here’s why.
I used to write my blog posts on the tube on my commute to work. I had time to reflect, I could get a seat and I had twenty minutes to think quickly and push publish. Now I walk for twenty minutes and stand for forty each day to get in to work.
It sounds silly but trying to find the perfect time to blog about yourself day to day is tough. At end of the day you’re tired and the rest of day, well it’s just a bit mental! I found myself batching up posts on the weekend and spamming my friends and family on social misfit with updates. Not cool.
I take fewer photos
I can confirm that it is possible to refrain from the need to take a photo of anything you may have shot before one hundred times and simply admire it and walk by. I do this daily now and it spares my audience on social media and saves my iPhone and MacBook loads of memory! But this means I don’t always have a photo to share from my day on this blog.
My priorities changed
I believe we should use our time to do the things we love as much as we possibly can. We get one shot at life and it’s up to us to make sure that’s all we need by doing it well.
I questioned whether I was blogging out of obligation to myself or because I was actually enjoying it. The truth is it was the former. I was starting to resent having to think about the parts of my day that I needed to share and that others might find interesting.
That was a clear sign for me.
I want more face time
Sharing my life used to be useful. Too busy to find the time to spend with friends and family in ‘real life’ should not be an excuse for anyone. For me it was. This became apparent at a friends wedding party two months ago.
I went along by myself and knew only the bride and groom so I had to network and make friends. I put my phone in my bag and proceeded to work the room, introduce myself and get to know people by asking questions and not just looking at their Twitter profile or Instagram photos to get a sense of who they might be. I spent time talking at length to new friends and faces and it felt great.
Now, I’m not saying I’ve not done this before. I have and I do. But for some reason this time not only did I network, I kept my phone in my bag or on the table all night, reaching it for it only to take photos of the first dance and the wedding cake! Why? Because I was having more fun without it and white honestly, I forgot it was there!!!
This was only reinforced further when I had friends come to visit me in my new home. It’s amazing how one tiny (but huge) change in your life can bring you closer to the people you know and love again but showing them your world beyond the walls of social media.
So am I going to give up on Project 35?
Am I about to follow suit of the top social media influencers and pretend to give it all up? The answer is, no!
I’ll add posts on the days that I feel I do have a story to tell and that I want to share with the world. And I’ll keep using social media but with a slightly different approach. All in all its about quality over quantity.
And as for face time, friends and family can expect to see a lot more of me. The real me the one that hides in the shadows of social and blogs.
Being 35 has most definitely been a transitional year so far for me and there are still sixty two days to go!
You can go do something else now 😉
Thanks for reading!